If you’ve read my blogpost titled “Yewa” that I wrote sometime in 2020, you’ll read about me speaking on how patience was one virtue I lacked and needed to improve on. If you haven't, I think you should. It's one blogpost I reference a lot. I was in my bag when I wrote it tbh. Here is the link for easy access
Sincerely, it has been an uphill battle for me. I constantly try to remind myself that patience is now a fruit of my born again spirit so I must exhibit it always. I consciously take deep breaths and remind myself of this mantra before acting because I refuse to let myself be brash or abrupt.
A few days ago, I posted a video on my WhatsApp status of my current hair length and my caption was directed at all the people who laughed at me when I made the drastic decision to loc my hair. It was a brutal period of my life because the hair was actually ugly. Even I cried in private but formed Hulk Hogan in public. However, God did it.
A few hours later, a friend replied the status update and immediately I opened it, I heard God tell me "You keep claiming that you struggle with patience but you could wait years for your hair to grow and become that which you had in mind. Even when naysayers spoke, you remained steadfast in waiting and treated your hair continually with love and patience. Why can't you take the same approach with others especially yourself?”. Immediately, I took a deep breath because that drag choke. It was after this that I realised that the word was not directed at me alone. The drag was for us all.
Growing up, I expected certain things to happen in my life at certain ages and stages. I had a timeline for myself. On this list was my preferred wedding year- 2020. I had started speaking about this year 10 years earlier while I was still in secondary school. I had told my family members that I was going to get married at 23 and overtime, they had gotten used to the idea of me marrying early and leaving the nest. The day I turned 23, quite a number of them asked me when I was getting married. It was quite funny to me because when the age came around, marriage was not close to happening for me. I was not even sure about being in the cards for me. These days when people ask me what age/year I'd like to get married, I tell them that I have none and I’m fine with whenever it happens. God has taken me through a series of twists and turns for me to get to this stage of “nonchalance” and trust. I entered a lot of ships I should have bypassed just because I wanted to make my preferred wedding date a reality. While I’m still learning and I’ve gotten more comfortable with waiting, I still need to exhibit more patience.
Early last year, God gave me a date and I associated it with the romantic aspect of my life. When that I had in mind did not come to pass, I kept wondering what went wrong and if God pulled a prank on me. A few months ago, the same date settled in my spirit again but with an expectation. I added it to my calendar and told the Lord “Behold the handmaid of the Lord; be it unto me according to thy Word”. I have held on to this date tightly in my hand but I have asked God wassup every two seconds. On some level, I was scared that the expectation would not come to pass so I subconsciously felt the need to remind God every two market days about what He said. I was claiming to wait and praise God in the hallway but I was turning the door handle every second to make sure that it was functional.
One thing I know that God is teaching me in this period of my life is REST- The need for it and the manner to go about it. I need to learn how to rest in ABBA’s love for me. I need to learn how to let things happen rather than trying to force them to happen. One prayer I have been praying quite frequently is about being in God’s will for me. I pray about not being too fast or slow but being directly aligned to His steps for my life. It is a prayerpoint I think everyone should imbibe really.
God’s time is really the best. I know it is a popular phrase we’ve heard quite a lot growing up and while it might seem to have lost its taste in our mouth, it is still valuable. You cannot have a better timeline for yourself than the person that created you. Stop being a backseat driver. Stop claiming that God is in the driver seat of your life but you keep giving unsolicited directions from the backseat and might even go as far as stretching to hold the steering. Dear believer, rest assured in your knowledge of the driver and the way maker. God is clearing road for you even though it is not your birthday. You have tasted of God’s love, His faithfulness and commitment to bringing every word of His to pass. Let it resonate in your heart and calm your spirit. If He could send His son over two thousand years ago to save you from your sin and free you from condemnation, why do you then believe that He will not give you all you need to not just survive but thrive?
If you saw a glimpse of the life God has in store for you, you would gladly wait in peace without any complaints. There is truly a reason for this season of your life. God is not just taking you through the fire because He is mean. He wants you equipped and throughly furnished to be able to handle the goodness coming your way. The future you prayed for is worth the wait and purification. Do not try to rush the process. Wait rest assured. God is the greatest designer. He will never create anything less than perfect. If a diamond only experienced half of the pressure needed for its purification, it would not sparkle as bright nor worth so much. Trust Him without needing to understand. He will never mismanage your life. He’s not a Nigerian politician.
God’s word to you today through me is to REST in joy and peace! He has not forgotten you. He has created all things for your benefit. He is still on it! Trust Him completely.
Until we meet again, I stay here rooting for you and doing my best to take my own advice. Love you guys always!
P.S: I know you people will drag me but I’ve decided to change my mouth. While I start and sometimes completely finish and edit some posts, I never get around posting them. I can take the easy approach and blame procrastination but the truth is that I just do not get the leading to post them at that moment. Sadly, our posting schedule is going to change and rather than once a month, it is now “When the spirit directs”. If you want more posts, pray hard. Tell God. He listens.
Please remember that you can always reach out to me. If you do not have direct contact to me, my email is attached to this blog. I'm here to agree with you in prayer, give a word of advice or just cheer you on. God kept me on this Earth for you. Make good use of me please ❤️
Lastly, I recently read the book in the cover image and I think it's one of the best handouts for those single (as in unmarried) and looking to have a great godly marriage. Please get a copy if you can. It would truly bless you.
I love this!
Wow! Thank you so much Lelo dear for sharing, this was worth reading. ❤️
Thank you Lelo, it’s to continue being a passenger princess & let God continue having control of the ride (my life) 💕