Pick Me, Choose Me, Love Me❤️

I CHOOSE YOU

Such powerful words we should repeat more often. I’m sure seeing that, your mind is wandering on the topic of love. Images of that your love interest is dancing right before your already glazed eyes. Your lips are curving into a smile and you’re doing your utmost best to stop its formation. You are thinking of messaging them when you’re done reading this post. Love is doing you dudunke.

Sadly, I’m here to tell you that you have the wrongest idea of what this post is about. I am talking about you. Yes, YOU! I am definitely not talking about me choosing you as I have chosen already. I am more focused on asking you the last time you actually did things for the sole purpose of bringing yourself happiness. When was the last time you did anything for you?

As individuals, we sometimes get scared to say “no” to things we desperately want to get out of. We may be screaming such in our heads but instead of voicing them out, we slap on a smile on our faces and reply in that voice we’ve come to know like second nature (mostly because it’s ours) “Of course”, “Definitely” or whatever variations of those words we can lay our hands upon in our vocabulary. We keep piling on to our plates until they are skyhigh. Even after such happens, rather than sitting down to feast, we go back to the buffet table, grab a second plate and off we go again. It is no wonder that the stomachache of life visits us ever quite often and we end up feeling burned out. There’s only so much you can handle.

Well, this is a reminder (I realised that everyone needs one sometimes) to always choose you. Be ridiculously selfish with your life and who you let into it. Remember that it is extremely easy to transfer energy so make sure you’re surrounded by the positive ones always. Have a tribe of strong, positive and supportive people. Grow with your tribe but above all, do not hesitate to cut off toxic people from your life. Also, do not forget to pull your weight.

It’s quite easy to notice toxic people (you just need to shine your eyes, on torchlight like zaki and stop creating excuses for them) and on this note, I beg you to actually take a few steps back and evaluate situations where you have been toxic. Apologise genuinely and actually do better. A proper apology consists of 3 very important parts:

• I am sorry I did #### and made you feel ###

• How can I do better? or What can I do to make things better

• Changed behaviour

Also, I know it’s quite hard to sometimes do things for you. You might feel selfish especially as some people are fond of showing you all the bad in the world and making you feel even worse than the devil for being happy. Firstly, I’d advise you to clear such people out. Also, I curate the most amazing (because if I don’t blow my trumpet, who will???) self-care lists monthly. They are the perfect reminders and they cover all aspects of one’s life: physically, mentally, spiritually, socially and even financially.

I used to be one of those people that felt the need to downplay my happiness but I’ve recently learnt with the help of my own lists that it’s perfectly fine to be happy. I’m not asking you to go to someone’s funeral and belt out the lyrics of “I feel good” but it’s totally stupefying to pause, do an internal reflection and realise that you’re actually at an amazing place in your life.

Just incase you’re not already following me on social media and neither are you one of my WhatsApp contacts, follow me on twitter @lemme_alone and Instagram @lelo_vicks to get the monthly self care lists as e dey hot. I usually drop them the second to the last day of the month. Just stay on the lookout.

My love, please, please and PLEASE, secure yourself. You are the entire bag.