Musings Of A Single Celibate Girl ✌🏾

Now that I’m being consistent with dropping blogposts, nobody is sending me money o. When Itake off for one month bayii, you people will now start threatening me. It’s good to reward good behaviour o! I’m just saying sha 👀

I’ve been celibate for 15 months now and truthfully, it hasn’t been a walk in the park. You see, the not having/thinking about sex is the easiest part about my celibacy. The waiting for someone to understand your values and reckon with them in a romantic manner, that’s the brutal part. E hard pass Olumo rock. E be like all this Nigerian seasoning cubes.

Like every other normal human being out there, I wanna meet someone too. I want to do all the cute shii, get all the flutters in my tummy and smiles on my face. I want to fall irrevocably in love and have him feel the same way about me. I want to look at him and have the Westlife song, Close, play somewhere in my head. Most importantly, I want all this without having to compromise my beliefs. Thankfully, I couldn’t even if I decided to. God’s Spirit in me no go gree me.

You see my friends frequently claim that love is just around the corner for me but my compound myopic astigmatism no be anyone’s mate. I cannot see it, at least not yet. Still, I want to be able to look on the horizon and someday, see love in the cards for me. I know at the back of my mind that God still has sons and my standards aren’t too high but e con be like sey oro fornication yii ni sha. Sincerely, it’s like nobody is even buying into waiting till marriage anymore. “If you no Dey do, move away please” seems to be the order of the day everywhere. E choke o!

I have always been that vocal woman that shoots her shot at men that catches her fancy but these days, I’d rather just close my eyes because how wicked would I be deemed if I carry my two legs to toast a man who is sexually active then tell him I cannot put out when he now starts feeling the babe??? I think it’s easier if roles are reversed and na him come toast me because we’ll know that na he Dey find wahala for himself. It is not in my nature to carry “negativity” or “bad energy” into another’s life. In as much as I am of the opinion that all Christians should live by the bible and all its words, it’s not in my place to force others into living by it.

These days, I just Dey float in this romantic space but the most important part is that I know for a fact without a doubt that I will get my own love. God has said it and He will do it at His perfect time. Yes, the wait process can be gruesome and frustrating some times but I am prepared and ready to stay steadfast irrespective of how long it will take. I will get my CHRISTIAN, spirit filled, rich, fine af, smart and taller than I am husband and we would live in a happy marriage where Christ would be the centre and foundation. We would have godly children that will know and serve the Lord all the days of their life and our marriage would be a positive example of how God deemed the institution to be. Can I get an “Amen” somebody???

However, to the glory of God and shame of the devil, I see a couple of my friends, a few of them actually being virgins, enjoying beautiful, godly and sane relationships so I know that a sexually pure and amazing relationship is possible. I’m super thankful to them for the reminders that sexual purity isn’t out of fashion. It’s amazing to have people to look to and gain a bit of strength during the rough days.

Anyway, this was supposed to be a rant piece (the time is 1:50am) but at the same time, I felt the need to remind my fellow celibacy geng to stay strong. We gather Dey. We stand gidigba. No shaking. Christian standards are non-negotiable. We do not operate by the standards of this world. Most importantly, remind yourself about what the Bible says about those that wait on the Lord. I think this video would do wonders for your spirit also. Check it out on IG https://www.instagram.com/reel/CcOEIlcJnF9/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

No matter how difficult it gets, my single boos, remember always that we are in this together and as always, I love you and I’m rooting for you. Stay happy! Stay pure ❤️!

Till we meet again. Jesus loves you very much!

P.S: Enjoy this video that mirrors my reaction when people bring fornication to my doorstep 😂