Love or Confusion 🤯

So yesterday, I put up on my WhatsApp status “How do you know you are in love?”. As usual, I got a whole lot of funny replies but I struck up a conversation with a friend because of this and she opened my eyes and heart to amazing insights.

Ever liked someone? I mean really really liked someone and you get all these butterflies in your tummy? You get all flustered around them? Well, how are you sure those butterflies in your tummy are not just worms due to you not deworming in a while? What if you are in the beginning stages of a running stomach? Seriously, how are you sure those tingles are not just as a result of you being horny? How sure are you that that man/woman you surround yourself with is not just a ploy by you to distract yourself and you are branding it as love?

Have you ever been doing one thing. One basic thing you do all the time with a friend you could have sworn is nothing but platonic and the next thing you feel is a sucker punch to your gut with the realisation “I love him” or “I am in love with her”? Have you ever looked at them smiling and realising in that moment that they are the missing piece you’ve been searching for all your life? The perfect note to the harmony you’ve been trying to sing? Have you heard them talk passionately about something they love and you go “Yep! I’m irrevocably in love”?

Still as a response to my status update, another friend said “You see past their flaws and you won’t mind stretching yourself thin to make sure they’re happy”. A close friend also said “When you see a call from them and your face lights up. When they are the first person you want to share even the tiniest detail with. Whenever you are around them, you never want to leave and you wake up every morning thinking of how lucky you are”.

Does that ring a bell in your heart? Who is that one true person that you would lay down your life for in a heartbeat just to put a smile on their face? That person that your soul genuinely craves? The person that makes every hurt heal? The person that makes forever seem so bleak if they aren’t in it?

One thing I’ve realised is, love is very disrespectful. It doesn’t care about your plans, relationship with another, vow to never love again, gender, timing, friendship, whatsoever. It cares about none of it. Love makes an entrance when it decides to and nothing you could have said or done would have stopped it.

Is there someone that makes you feel all these things and more? Tell them how you feel today. Tomorrow may be too late.