It Is The 7th Of November And That Can Only Mean One Thing 😻🔥❤️

Dear Oluwalolopemi,

It’s your birthday and I know how happy this day makes you. I know how you look forward to it the entire year and enjoy the countdown. I know how you light up from the sweet words, status updates and gifts. I know it all.

I also know that you’ve done remarkably well these last 365 days. You grew as an individual, friend, lover and minister of the gospel. You did your best to put yourself first and you picked yourself without waiting nor needing anyone to pick you. You loved, lost, learned from it all and apologised genuinely. You were not afraid to say that you were wrong. You put yourself out there and gave love freely. You forgave. You had a few hard conversations.

Your walk with God became even closer and better. You desired more of Him and you went seeking for answers even when it seemed uncomfortable. You opened your Bible every single day and utilised it. I read some of your Bible study notes and I am amazed at how truly remarkable you are. You walked in the consciousness of the power at work in you and did so many miracles. My woman of God shaking things up for the Lord.

You were a solace to others and a bureau of knowledge. While your patience level still needs a bit of work, you did better; way, way better this year. You understood that people are fallible and you extended grace to them despite their mistakes. You created time for those that mattered to you and let them feel the full impact of your love. You gave without holding back. Everyone who interacted with you left better than when they met you. You showed up for people.

A new chapter is starting today and while you are excited because of all the prophecies you have received personally and from others, I am still going to need you to do a few more things for me. They might be tough but you need them. Are you ready???

1. It’s therapy time: I can see you protesting already but I need you to be a better and whole version of yourself firstly because you deserve it and also because your future family deserves it too. It is going to be hard, raw and vulnerable but you can do it. I believe in you.

2. Have the hard conversations: The more you sweep things under the carpet because you do not want to seem like a bother or rock the boat, the more you leave resentment to build in your heart. It’s okay to speak up. The people you are speaking to love you and want to be in your life. If they also leave as a result of you communicating your hurts and emotions, it’s okay. You will be fine.

3. Self kindness: Adetoun, the last thing anyone that meets you will say is that you are unkind. You are truly kind to all but I’m going to need you to extend that same kindness to yourself. Extend the same grace you readily give to others when they make mistakes to yourself. It’s only your first time as a human. You cannot be perfect.

4. Stop with the scarcity mindset: I know that you have begun to work on this but I just want to reemphasise it. You do not need to amass things and memories for some drought you believe might occur in future. It’s okay to let go. Jesus is taking care of you. He is both your provision and provider.

5. Stop shrinking yourself: My babe, sometimes you shrink yourself to fit spaces you have outgrown. You play small to accommodate things that you have no business dealing with. You dim your light for others to shine brighter. You have believed the lie the Devil had been whispering that you do not deserve the best in life as a result of your past experiences for too long. You cannot be okay with scraps of food that fall from the table of the children. I forbid you to be. Please remember that you deserve to sit in the front. Do not shrink yourself when you are in a room you deserve and fought hard to be in.

6. Spoil yourself: You do not need to wait for things to come to you. Get them yourself. Life is hard enough. Give yourself an easy journey. No be every time you suppose dey see shege in the hands of Lagos bus drivers and their conductors. You deserve better.

7. Let him in: I don’t know who he is yet but I want you to know that it’s safe with him. He won’t intentionally hurt you and if it happens unintentionally, he’ll fix it. He genuinely loves you and wants to be with you. You don’t need a “because”. You don’t need to close your heart due to self preservation and protection. It’s okay to love and be loved genuinely in return. Love will not leave. I promise.

I love you so much. I see the woman you’re and I’m so proud. Once, you were a little girl who swore she would make big things happen. Now, you are a woman making those same things and more happen. Little Lolope is so amazed at who you are. She’s a huge fan and is totally rooting for your success. You’ve blown her mind and done the impossible. You have actually come a long way and shut the naysayers. You should be so proud of yourself. You deserve a pat on your back so give yourself one. You are doing amazing sweetie.

Go and shake the world positively.

I am rooting for you and cheering the loudest❤️

All the love that exists in the world,

Oluwalolopemi