My Letter To You ❤️

My dear reader,

Have you ever spent so much time thinking about doing something that at the end of the day, you have little or no time to do the actual thing you’ve been thinking about? If you’re a creative, I’m sure you can relate.

I’d recently spent a lot of time thinking about writing a blog post but never got around to doing it. A lot of days I’d hear my secondary school administrator’s voice in my head saying her most famous words “Procrastination is the thief of time”. Despite leaving the door to my life wide open for procrastination to do what it knows best with my time, I’m here.

For the most time, I didn’t have anything in me to talk about but grief. I definitely did not want to bore you with details of how I got my heart broken and then lost my uncle in the space of two short months. However, my biggest fan when it comes to my writing asked for a blog post on Friday and I promised her she’d get one. Well, here it is. I hope it lives up to expectations.

You might have figured out by now that I have absolutely no idea what to write. Yet, I don’t want this to be a filler blogpost, so I guess it’s time to be vulnerable. Life has been a bit hard lately. I have been torn between actually letting my feelings out and sucking them up because big girls don’t cry, and in the grand scheme of things, a lot of other people have it worse. Then I realised that that was me gaslighting myself and my emotions.

Yes, your life is definitely better than another’s and this is a huge reason for gratitude, but on the other hand, you can have tough times and pain in some seasons and it’s perfectly okay to be sad. It does not have to be an either/or situation. Both truths can coexist peacefully. You can wake up daily and say “God thank you for this life you’ve given me. Please grant me ease in this situation I’m facing”. God will not think you’re ungrateful for having a prayer point. Our devotion should not only be about our needs but you are allowed to bring them up sometimes.

In May, I lost a very important person in my life just as I was still trying to navigate life with a broken heart. While I’m not crying as much as I used to, my heart and emotions still feel very raw. Most days, I feel like I’m in a simulation and someone needs to shut the power down. It doesn’t make sense. It’s very weird and hard and a whole lot of negative adjectives but knowing that Christ rose from the grave and both my important person and I believe(d) in Him has been a source of comfort for me. I will see him again and all will be well with the world.

In the wake of my grief, I lost close friends that I thought we’d spend all our lives together. To some, it might seem like me overreacting but knowing how much I show up for and celebrate my friends, I would not expect these people to be absent in my life when I needed them without a viable excuse. Friendly advice guys, show up for people regardless. Even if you don’t have anything to say, sit with them in silence or talk about mundane things to give them a reprieve at that moment. They might cry themselves to sleep nightly but when the sun is bright and high in the sky, help them remember how to smile. Those tiny gestures you might consider inconsequential matter. They matter a whole lot.

Truthfully, I almost lost my mind and I had to be seen by someone and prescribed sleeping medication (which I didn’t take 🤭) but getting visits from my friends and acquaintances and talking about random topics that they knew I liked made a world of difference. People sending me food just so I didn’t have to spare an extra brain cell fuelling my body added up in my healing journey. Let people know that they matter to you every time and a little extra on the rough days. That’s the point of community.

Moving on to slightly less depressing topics, I’m at that point in my life where I’m intentionally looking out for true romantic love. I’ve been single for almost three years and while waiting longer for the right kind of love is not an issue, I want my own person already.

It’s not even about the initial flutters of falling love but the aftermath of it. I am truly tired of doing life alone. God, I want to be kissed by my husband!!!!!!! I don’t know when it would happen or who it would be. However, I’m intentionally praying for the person I’ll end up with. He’s definitely going to be a great guy who deserves the best life has to offer. I’m so happy for him fr!

In all of this rogbodiyan going on, especially if Tinubu is your president, how are you truly? How is life treating you? I’ve been told I’m a very good listener and I give great advice so if you ever need to talk to anyone about anything in confidence, you can send me an email at osidipeoluwalolope@yahoo.co.uk. I’d genuinely love to hear from you.

Ultimately, I wrote this blogpost to remind you that you are always loved, first by the Father, then by everyone in your life, including me, who holds you dear. You make our worlds go round and just like I’ve learnt in these last few months, if anything happened to you, our lives wouldn’t be the same forever.

Also, God has such lofty plans to give you an amazing future and at the right time, they would come to fruition. Just continually seek His face and walk in His will. His predetermined council over your life will always stand.

You are not late despite it seeming sometimes like most people are ahead in their race in life. It was not too late for Elizabeth to have a child, neither was it too early for Mary. The One who knows the end while standing at the beginning has said it and we believe it.

WE ALWAYS WIN AND GOD IS ALWAYS ON TIME!

Whatever mistake you think has happened in your past can turn out to be your life’s biggest prophecy of God just like Jonah’s. Whatever time or opportunity you think you’ve lost can still be restored in several folds just like Job’s. He still is in the business of turning bad things around for your good because all things, not some or most, work together for your good. They have absolutely no choice but to work for you. That’s on period!

I love you so much. I’m praying and rooting for you as always. My offer still stands if you need to talk, pray with someone or need anything. It doesn’t matter if you’ve never had one one-on-one time with me before or believe we are not close. You are in my community so you matter greatly to me. Take me up on my offer!

Till the next time I remember that I am a writer and people absolutely love hearing from me,

• Your Lelo baby ❤️